Train puppies – Mentor kids

via Daily Prompt: Mentor

“Training- training is everything; training is all there is to a person. We speak of nature; it is folly; there is no such thing as nature; what we call by that misleading name is merely heredity and training. We have no thoughts of our own, no opinions of our own; they are transmitted to us, trained into us.”
Mark Twain, A Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur’s Court

When I was 19 I lived in Madison Wisconsin USA on the isthmus between 2 lakes.  There were bike trails, the university, outdoor festivals and farmers markets on the capital square.  My neighborhood was a mix of students and hippies.  My next-door neighbors were a young family and much to my surprise one day I found the 5 and 6-year-old had written in sidewalk chalk – Subvert the dominant paradigm.  I wasn’t sure what it meant so I looked it up and I liked it immediately.

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My parenting style may be different than others – or I should say it absolutely is different from others.  I want my children to function successfully in the school system and to be respectful.  I do not however want them to lack in critical thinking and to just accept everything they are told at face value.  I also don’t want the personality conditioned out of them so that they can be docile and easy to control.  As you may intuit this has led to some challenges for me and some calls from the school over the years.

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It has also led to parent teacher conferences where a teacher tells me how much my kids contribute to the discussions and how my son saw something in a story that has been in the curriculum for the last 15 years that she had never noticed and how insightful it was.

Children need boundaries but they also need to have space to develop their natural gifts.  A bright child with logical arguments should be directed to the debate society instead of the principals office.   Aggressiveness can be honed on the athletic field or basketball court.  Creativity can be explored in art club, band, chorus or drama.  Trying to force kids into a box only stifles them.

Obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” – Michael Jordan

If we want our kids to become leaders instead of followers, we need to encourage then to test their boundaries.  Don’t be afraid to let your kids fight for what they believe in and see what they can accomplish.

Suit up for Success

via Daily Prompt: Costume

Express Yourself – Suit up for Success

Not hitting the desired rung on the corporate ladder?  Maybe it is time to up your clothing game and dress like the executives.  Polish up your image and see if other people assume that you are what you project.

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A few months ago we had an international group in for a team meeting.  My wardrobe for important work meetings is tailored suits, usually with skirts and heels.  That makes me feel confident, polished and ready for anything.

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The meeting went well and most of the group left on Thursday; Friday was casual dress and with a $5 donation we could wear our favorite team jersey and jeans.

I turned up representing my team – NFL (American Football) Green Bay Packers – # 12 Aaron Rodgers.  It was fun to have the relaxed atmosphere and camaraderie with coworkers – even the ones who like the Dallas Cowboys.  I was getting all sorts of comments since it was the week that Rodgers broke his collarbone.

When I got dressed I didn’t realize that I would be having a meeting with the regional sales manager from Malaysia.  We needed to sort out an issue that had been lingering and I was determined to get it resolved face to face.  I don’t know if it was the energy in the whole business that day or my costume but it felt like we were in a huddle and I was the quarterback.

go team

Not only did we get the issue addressed – I got a compliment on the jersey and he said he should get one for his meetings!

 

So the take away – your clothes not only transform how you feel and present yourself – they also shape how others see you.  Have fun and take advantage of your super suit – whatever that may be.

GO PACK!

The Struggle is Real – Strategy can help

via Daily Prompt: Strategy

“One may know how to conquer without being able to do it”

Sun Tzu, The Art of War

You can’t boil the ocean – having goals without direction or too many goals for the resources available is a sure way to fail.

Understanding what you want is key. It is impossible to plot a course without understanding where you want to go.  The goal may be – I want to increase my net worth by $15,000 in liquid assets or I want to lose 20 lbs.

Understanding your limits is also important – I want to increase my net worth by $15,000 in liquid assets in a legal and ethical way.  Getting money faster may be easier with blurred lines, but understanding that your goal is to do it legally and ethically keeps you on the path.  I want to lose weight safely and keep it off.  Crash dieting for a month isn’t going to cut it.

Now that there are goals – lets look at what to do to make our goals into reality.

Goal One – increasing net worth by $15,000 in liquid assets

How?  Do a Reality Check – where are you now versus where you want to be?

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The Current situation – I am saving money at a rate of $250 per month, current balance $1,000

The Ideal situation – I have a savings account with $15,000

By comparing the current and ideal a specific target of $14,000 in additional savings is defined as the goal.

Next consider time – Do you want to increase your net worth by December 2018? Or December 2020?

Time to take a look at the factors impacting this decision.

Do a SWOT analysis – What are your Strengths and Weaknesses? What external Opportunities and Threats impact your goal?

Internally –

  • Strengths – Debt to Income ratio leaves extra money for savings
  • Weaknesses – High car payment, tendency to buy new things when not needed

Externally-

  • Opportunity – Get higher paying job, get less expensive car and save the difference
  • Threats – Unexpected expenses, Increases in taxes or utility rates, Economic downturn

Understanding what is going to help achieve the goal as well as what will potentially undermine success is information needed to formulate a strategic plan.

In order to save $14,000 by December 2018 would require a monthly contribution of $1,167 per month starting this month.  Is that feasible?

In order to save $14,000 by December 2020 would require a monthly contribution of $400 per month.  Is this feasible or could you do it sooner?

Maybe you can comfortably save $650 per month which would put you at the $14,000 mark in 21 ½ months.

Another goal is weight loss. Let’s say I want to lose 20 pounds.

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Reality Check – Do I have 20 lbs to lose?

Current Situation -My Body Mass shows Index I am 15 – 20 lbs heavier than ideal for my height

Ideal Situation – I am the ideal weight for my height

The goal is set – lose 20 pounds without crash dieting

When? – I want to lose 20 pounds by the middle of April 2018

How? – Is this do-able by my preferred time?  Time to do a SWOT analysis

Internally –

  • Strengths – I like walking in nature and occasional hikes, I like to swim and, I like bike riding
  • Weaknesses – I love chocolate, sweets, and chicken nuggets

Externally –

  • Opportunities – onsite workout center
  • Threats – Krispy Kremes and Sonic

So if I set out to walk, hike, swim and bike ride more and eat fewer sweets and chicken nuggets – is that a strategy?  Not quite, I need to add in a measurement – April 30, 2018 is 3 ½ months away so I will need to lose a set amount of weight each week.  Or none this month and 7, 6, and 7 respectively in February, March and April.  In order to know if I am on track to succeed I need a tracking signal.

Two goals are illustrated above.  Once the facts are known determine how aggressive your strategy will be, do you want the slow steady approach or a quicker result.  You can do either as long as you have the resources to meet the milestones.  A milestone is a set target – balance in savings or total lbs lost at the 1 month mark – are you on schedule at this rate to meet your goal?

The measurements will allow me to adjust the strategy if it isn’t working.  It is better to adjust the strategy and meet the goal than it is to give up – so if you aren’t on track adjust and see your goal through to completion.

Take a look at your own goals and try to create a strategy to achieve them.

Thank you for reading